Nowadays, preserving family relationships from the beginning of living together to death itself is becoming less common. According to statistics, over the past two years the number of divorces has increased almost three times. From the point of view of psychologists, the reasons for this are the various factors of the modern rhythm of life, which affects the relationship between spouses.
Often, the initiator of the divorce becomes a man, while his loving woman is trying to maintain a relationship. But when this fails, almost every second woman is trying in every way to get her lover back. Among such methods are effective and, conversely, repulsive. Therefore, before embarking on one or another method, you need to become more familiar with each of them.
Does it make sense to return the husband after the divorce
To answer this question, many family psychologists recommend honestly answering a few simple questions for a woman:
- Does a wife really want her ex-husband back?
- If so, why does he want to return?
- Does a woman love him as before, or is it just affection?
In this case, in no case be returned to him in order to take revenge. Such goals only exacerbate the unpleasant situation.
Quite frequent motives for the return of the ex-husband are:
Children who need a dad. Often this is done so that children can learn the full form of this family. However, if you look at this motive from the other side, the children will soon grow up and flee from their own nest, and the woman will have to live with the unloved person with whom she stayed for the sake of the children. Therefore, to justify this motive, a woman needs to decide whether she wants to live out her life with such a man or not.- Fear of being alone for the rest of your days. This aspect is formed by the subconscious of the woman. Therefore, many women think that after a divorce, especially if they have children, they will not be interested in men. However, such a subconscious opinion is erroneous, since there are a large number of men who will be loving to treat not only the divorced person, but also her children. In this regard, you should not dwell on the man who betrayed his family.
- True love. If a woman is one hundred percent sure of her love for her escaped husband. And also when an abandoned wife cannot live normally without her man, when her inner world has lost all colors, in the heart and in the soul, emptiness. Only in this case it is necessary to fight for your family happiness with a changed, but still beloved person.
Children who need a dad. Often this is done so that children can learn the full form of this family. However, if you look at this motive from the other side, the children will soon grow up and flee from their own nest, and the woman will have to live with the unloved person with whom she stayed for the sake of the children. Therefore, to justify this motive, a woman needs to decide whether she wants to live out her life with such a man or not.If a woman still tuned in to a responsible step in returning her husband, then she should gain strength and patience. In addition, she needs to forgive his treason or other offenses caused to her.
If the husband went to another woman: the recommendations of the psychologist
After marriage, there is a family life, which has various problems, quarrels, and sometimes treason. Therefore, love feelings between two people are gradually dulled, which subsequently leads to a break in relations and divorce.
In this case, if a woman noticed even the slightest hint of cooling feelings or negative changes in the behavior of her spouse, then she is obliged to take all possible and impossible measures to prevent forthcoming adultery or divorce with lightning speed.
Many psychologists, in order to restore harmony and renew feelings between spouses, recommend the following:
- pick a common hobby or hobby. At the same time, the chosen occupation should be interesting for each family member, otherwise it will not be possible to avoid a quarrel;
- go on vacation together or go hiking;
- analyze the words spoken, their behavior in relation to each other. It is very important that both spouses perform this analysis;
- a woman should always keep herself in shape so that her husband would pay attention to her and not to other girls. For a man, the main thing is to see a woman, and only then a housewife in a greasy robe;
- make changes to intimate life. This factor is often ignored by both spouses, and this is wrong. Since the harmony of relationships depends on sexual satisfaction.
If, nevertheless, it happened that the husband left for another woman, then it would be rather difficult to bring him back to the family.
First of all, you need to figure out what exactly was the reason for his departure to his mistress:
- lack of attention from the wife;
- mutual understanding with his mistress;
- unwillingness to always be close to the same woman. That is, the man wanted to diversify his intimate life.
The inconstancy of a man can be repeated more than once, that is, returning to his wife, the husband will be able to find himself a mistress in a month or two.
When returning the prodigal spouse, in no case can one be guided by surging emotions, which often end in uncontrolled hysteria or threats towards the spouse and his mistress. Such methods are not effective. Therefore, except for spoiling your nerves or your reputation in the eyes of your husband, such ways of solving the current problem will not bring any more results.
Experienced psychologists recommend doing so that the spouse was able to look at his wife with different eyes. To do this, first of all, you should pay as much attention to your spouse as possible, as well as make changes to your family and intimate life. To have a spree, her husband had neither the strength nor the desire to leave to his rival.
Effective ways for the return of her husband
Before looking for effective ways to return a husband, a woman needs to soberly assess the situation and identify the following aspects:
- for what purposes the changed spouse returns;
- find out the exact reason for leaving the man from the family;
- decide on methods for returning a spouse.
To choose the right way by which the prodigal husband returns to the family, it is necessary to consider all the available options:
- Apply skill and cunning.
- Use the services of a psychologist.
- Seek help from a church attendant.
- Resort to black or white magic. In this case, various love spells, fortune telling or rites are used.
Prayers
If a woman truly believes in God, then the best way to preserve her nest is prayer. At the same time, it must be pronounced with sincerity and from a pure heart.
Prayer can be read independently at home or at the icon in the church. When pronouncing prayer verses, the most important thing is correct attitude and positive thinking, as well as faith in the spoken words and love of the spouse. Such a ritual must be performed in front of the icon, next to which it is necessary to put a candle and holy water.
Currently, there are a considerable number of prayers that can be found in church literature or on the Internet.
Method of removal
It must be borne in mind that this method will be effective only if the spouse has some feelings for his soul mate. If a man does not experience anything to his wife, then return it in this way will not work.
This technique involves the complete removal from her husband. That is, do not answer his calls and do not communicate, if he comes to the children. If everything is done correctly, the man must first give signs of attention and attempt to return to the family.
Conspiracy
This method is very popular with the weaker sex. So how exactly a conspiracy is able to save a woman from an existing rival and bring her husband back to the family
Typically, women use this method after all other methods have been tried, and they have not brought a positive result.
To make the conspiracy more effective, it’s best to turn to an experienced fortune teller, who has positive reviews about herself.
Often conspiracies are made with a growing moon on Monday evening.
