It is good that this beautiful tradition has been preserved to this day - to give the bride an engagement ring. This is not just a gift, but a symbol of decision-making between two loving people to unite for life.
It would seem a simple ring, but how many nuances it contains in itself. What is different from others, how and how much to wear an engagement ring, what to do with it after the wedding or separation? You will find the answers to all these questions below.
What is the difference between a wedding ring and a wedding ring?
What is given to the bride and what is put on the finger at the altar, it seems among themselves only the form. Rings are often viewed as jewelery, and in fact they can tell a lot about their owners. The main thing is to know what is the difference between them.
For the ringlet on the engagement there are no strict rules for the manufacture, material and content of the inserts. Its value depends entirely on the financial capabilities of the groom.
Even the plastic jewelry, presented as a sign of successful negotiations about the future marriage, the bride must accept and wear before the wedding. After all, in the old days the ring on the finger served as a signal for all young people that the girl was married and did not consider any marriage proposals.
In some countries, such a gift must necessarily contain a stone or engraving. The most genuine expression of the bridegroom's feelings for the bride is to present the jewel of his mother, transmitted according to family tradition to the eldest son. By the way, the groom no gifts before the wedding is not due.
A wedding ring, unlike an engagement ring, is a required attribute and is not a gift. Despite the wealth or poverty of the pair, the rings should be made of gold, smooth, round. Changes in width are allowed.
Previously, they were associated with links of the chains of the god of marriage, Hymen, holding two people together. Therefore, wearing "difficult jewelry" is permissible not only for women. Religion provides for the mandatory permanent wearing of wedding rings for men and women who are married.
Hence the conclusion: if the girl wears an engagement ring, she is going to be married, and if the engagement ring is already married.
Terms of wearing a ring donated by engagement
Of course, all brides are interested in what finger they wear the engagement ring and how to do it correctly. There is no mandatory instruction on using the premarital link attribute. For many couples today, it's just a tribute to fashion. However, the engagement ring is worthy for the bride to respect the unwritten rules of wearing it.
On which hand is the groom's gift worn?
It depends on which country the girl made the offer. Americans always stretch their right hand when a jeweler's offerings take place, because this limb is always in sight.
Europeans prefer to wear jewelry from their favorite men on the hand that the groom chose himself.
According to the Catholic faith of a woman, all symbols of loyalty or oath are worn on the left hand.
Which finger should adorn an engagement ring?
According to custom, the place for a wedding ring is "guarded" by the engagement on the ring finger. Although it all depends on the size of the decoration.
How long to wear an engagement ring?
From the moment of presentation at the engagement party to the wedding, the bride should not part with the gift. As a sign of respect for her chosen one, the girl can carry him in for several years, until she is led down the aisle.
Wedding for most people is a costly affair, and until all financial issues are settled, it will not take place. It also happens that the parties terminate the engagement, and hence the period of wearing the ring ends.
In any case, the bride should treat the donated ringlet with care. In the event of his loss, the groom will consider it as a bad sign or disorderly conduct of his future wife.
What to do with the ring, presented to the engagement, after the wedding
For many women, the engagement ring is considered the first family heirloom, which is stored and inherited. But this does not mean that you can not wear it after the wedding.
Just before the wedding, the bride removes all the jewelry from her hands in order to put on the wedding ring and wear it until the circumstances of life separate the couple. Some married ladies wear a wedding and engagement ring on one finger.
It is believed that changing the premarital gift of the groom to the other hand after the wedding is a bad omen, because only widows do this.
How to deal with rings, if the engagement is upset or the marriage broke up
It is very sad when marriages break up. More dramatic when engagement is broken. After all, these are unwarranted hopes, unfulfilled dreams and broken hearts of young people.
In order to survive the gap, former lovers get rid of everything that can be reminiscent of each other. Jewelry donated to the bride, should also return, but here there are some subtleties.
If the groom initiates the quarrel, the bride has the right to keep all the gifts from him. There are cases when young people demand the return of all values through the court, because in some countries the engagement has legal force.
But according to tradition, an abandoned girl can keep the jewelry donated to the engagement as a sign of compensation for moral damage, despite their family or monetary value.
But the girl who escaped from under the crown, is obliged to return everything that she received before the marriage from the groom. It’s up to him to decide how the abandoned guy will use the engagement ring: throw it away; keep if it is family value; hand over to another bride.
In the jewelry stores of America, there is a system for returning such jewelry; people in this country are accustomed to and are going to meet young people who have been wasted.
The fate of wedding rings after a divorce is simpler. They stay with their former spouses, and they themselves decide what to do with them.
Whatever the engagement ring - iron or gold, with or without stones, expensive or cheapest - it should symbolize the love and unity of the couple, despite the fact that only the girl wears it.
In the next video - some more interesting information on how to wear rings.
