Loyalty to her husband, the desire to save the family - the most important values of life. But they do not always stand in spouses priority. Often in a relationship you have to deal with treason. In society, it is commonly believed that husbands most often change. But what if a woman changed?
Causes of Female Betrayal
What makes women put at risk their family well-being, decide on treason? British scientists have concluded that women who pretend to orgasm in bed go for it. Studies were conducted in which more than 250 people took part.
Half of them were women, the second half were men, they were all in a relationship. A survey was conducted: how often girls have an orgasm, find out whether they have changed in the past and made predictions for the future.
The results showed that female infidelity is directly related to sexual dissatisfaction.
For some reason, it is accepted in society that in most cases they are resigned to male adultery. But the woman comes under the attack of reproaches and condemnations.
According to psychologists, girls always go to this step intentionally. More often than not, she doesn’t need treason herself, she needs a fact of action. She does this with the goal of either getting a divorce, or making her husband jealous and appreciate her more.
Treason is a call that a crisis has set in the family and relationships are crumbling. Why is the woman, the keeper of the home instead of 
to try to keep the family, is decided to aggravate the situation. What could be the reasons:
- The woman believes that she deserves better. In the family, everything is bad, constant quarrels and misunderstandings, the husband does not pay attention. Most often, those who have lived together for more than 15 years decide on treason. Disappointment in family life is compensated by connections on the side.
- Some women start dating other men to increase their self-esteem. Family routine leads to the fact that girls no longer feel their attractiveness. To give themselves confidence, they decide on a new relationship.
- Treason can be caused by a feeling of revenge. Wife became aware of the fact that her husband has another. Being under severe stress, she goes to the next step.
- Not a single woman, not even married, is immune to the new feeling. She may just fall in love and, as in her youth, lose her head.
- Push for treason can frequent absence of her husband. It doesn't matter for what reason: a business trip, late returns in the evening from work. Being alone, the woman constantly feels that nobody needs her, and the years pass to nothing.
All these reasons can provoke a desire for a woman to start a new relationship. And even the fear of losing a family often does not stop.
"I want to change my husband" - how to get rid of this desire?
Girls go to treason more often than not spontaneously. This is a thoughtful, balanced decision. How to get rid of this desire? We are all living people, and when the family is not all good, and near so many attractive men, at times, it is difficult to cope with themselves. But there are several ways:
- First of all, find out why you want to do this act. If the relationship with your husband began to disappoint you, think about it. In the family, all problems must be divided in half. Maybe in the attenuation there is your fault. Relationships are flowers, and each flower must be watered, otherwise it will wither. The same goes for family relationships. If we do not feed them, they will become boring, lethargic;
- If your problem is sexual dissatisfaction, try talking to your husband about it. Maybe he himself, turning in everyday routine, forgets that you need to be more gentle;
- think about the consequences that your deed will lead to. You have a family, common children. And you can destroy all this overnight. Draw two columns and write down the pros and cons of cheating. Analyze what you can expect in the future;
- try to avoid compromising situations. Spend more time with your husband, go somewhere together, take the initiative.
Even one thought about new relationships is a big threat to family relationships.
What to do if you have already changed your husband
Treason did happen. Do not panic. Calm down and clearly lay out in your head what you want to see further in your life. What did this new relationship bring you? Did you get satisfaction from your act?
If you understand that adultery was just a mistake and your husband is dear to you, you are afraid of losing him, it is better to remain silent. Few men who will forgive adultery to his woman. Therefore, to save the family to spread about it is not worth it.
Even if he forgives you, further life may become unbearable. He will constantly suspect you, reproach, monitor every step. To save the family, forget this event and live on.
How to be if sex was not protected
Deciding to change, it is best to immediately think about the consequences that may be. Unprotected sex is dangerous in this case. In this case, emergency contraception can help.
Unlike conventional contraception, an emergency can prevent pregnancy even after sexual intercourse takes place. The main thing is not to delay the adoption of funds, they need to drink no later than 72 hours after the act.
She changed her husband and picked up a sexually transmitted disease - how to tell her husband?
It would be most difficult to hide the fact of treason if a woman after a sexual intercourse contracted a sexually transmitted disease. In this case, you need to show imagination and tricks, if you do not want the truth to surface.
Focus on the situation, the nature of your husband.
If he is quick-tempered, then it is better to come up with some excuse that you can not temporarily live a sex life.
Opinion and advice of psychologists
Many women perceive treason as a disaster. They are afraid to live on, they are tormented by a sense of guilt. Psychologists advise just to forget this event, to erase it from your memory. Any situation will be presented to us as we relate to this. Even in treason, you can find the positive side:
- After treason, your husband may begin to treat you more reverently. Fear of losing you will make him think about his attitude.
- Treason, the cause of which were conflicts, can help to smooth them.
- Relationships on the side can make you understand how much you value your family, your husband. This can help revive the relationship.
Most importantly, do not close in on yourself. Do not be afraid to look at your husband's eyes, any non-standard behavior may cause him extra questions. Hide the traces of your crime. Stop thinking about the fact of betrayal, delete it from memory and enjoy life.
The wife is cheating on her husband: what do men think about it
It is so accepted in our society that male adultery is perceived as physical weakness. Treason on the part of women is perceived by others very negatively. Men do not forgive treason.
A heap of accusations falls on a woman, first of all, of reproaches that she is a mother! Male pride does not allow to come to terms with this situation.
Only one who is able to admit his mistakes and blunders. But most often, the bulk of men are guided only by emotions.
What to do if a husband finds out about treason
What if my husband found out about treason? No matter how it happened, if he found your correspondence, someone told, the husband overheard the conversation, but the fact remains that the husband knows everything.
Even psychologists disagree on this issue. How to behave correctly? In this situation, with new relationships you need to immediately end.
Do not wait until the husband will find out all the details and trivia of your novel on the side. Most men just will not leave it, they will begin to conduct their own investigation, which will not end with anything good.
Men are very hot-tempered, they act on emotions. Take a pause, step aside. Give him the opportunity to let off steam, calm down a little. Excuses will not help, they will cause even more aggression.
Learn to ask for forgiveness, if a person sees sincere repentance, he will be able to understand you.
Is there life after treason
Women are very impressionable natures. The hardest thing for them to move the period after the betrayal. How to live next to her husband, how to look into his eyes.
Most girls start to score a sense of guilt. They overestimate their lives, begin to understand how much they love their husband and how they value their family. Fear of losing everything begins to haunt a woman.
Female infidelity - a threat to the family. Wives are able to forgive adultery and live with them on, but men do not. If the husband finds out about treason and forgives, there is no guarantee that he will let his woman live in peace. Most likely it is expected constant reproaches, surveillance, mistrust.
The easiest way out of the situation for those who could hide the fact of betrayal. Most importantly, handle yourself.
Suppress your inner fear, learn to forget and continue to live on. If you can't do it yourself, contact your family psychologist.
No matter how your family relations evolve, try to solve problems with dialogue. Everyone is capable of starting a new relationship, but not everyone can be aware of the possible consequences. No treason will bring happiness to a woman if her family and children are affected. Take care of your moral principles, do not forget that the feeling of betrayal will remain with you for life.
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