Undoubtedly, the very beginning of love relationships is filled with romance and joyful emotions. But it happens that with their rapid development, something starts to go wrong. There is a feeling of extinct relationships that have no future. It is at this moment that a woman should seriously think about breaking up.
Why it is not necessary to delay the faded relationship
Parting with your loved one is always difficult to survive, even if it is due to quite serious reasons. But it is worth remembering that the faded relationship is better to stop in a timely manner and should not be delayed with them.
In the period of easy love, you need to look closely to your boyfriend, otherwise a stalled relationship will bring much more pain. If a firm decision about parting is taken, then with a serious conversation, time does not make sense.
In any case, the question arises of how to live on without a person to whom there are any feelings. It is at this point that you should understand the correct selection of words, place and time of conversation.
How to part with a guy without offending him
Very often, girls who have decided to put a bullet in the relationship with their chosen one, postpone the conversation because of the fear of hurting his beloved. After all, everyone wants to leave a love affair only bright and happy memories.
To effective methods of parting include:
- Do not insult the chosen one in the end. In a fit of emotions, it is very easy to offend a person by saying a lot of unpleasant things. After the anger subsides, there will be a feeling of regret and remorse. To avoid this, you should keep silent about the shortcomings of the guy.
- Do not talk bad about the ex-boyfriend behind him. Undoubtedly, gossip behind the back does not decorate any lady. You should not say negative things behind your back after breaking up, because sooner or later he will know about it.
- You can not reveal the secrets of a guy. During the relationship, any couple has accumulated a lot of secrets that are unknown to others. It will be extremely unpleasant for every man to know that his former chosen one made a good compromising evidence against him.
Compliance with the above rules will help to avoid feelings of resentment from the guy. Of course, the separation itself can not be called a pleasant phenomenon, but it is easier for every girl to ease it.
How to tell an adult man that we part
Breaking up with an adult man is significantly different from breaking up with a young guy. At this age, the representative of the stronger sex is much easier to perceive information and is not so much exposed to emotional outbursts.
A calm heart-to-heart talk will be the best way to put an end to a relationship. But in order for the conversation to be as painless as possible for both, you should thoroughly prepare for it.
In order to organize the separation with an adult man, you need to remember a few nuances:
- the conversation should be personal, in no case do not need to resort to using SMS or phone calls;
- during a conversation, a woman needs to sort things out and explain the reason for breaking the love bond;
- It is obligatory to show respect for the chosen one and to show his significance in the life of a woman.
Despite the fact that parting with an adult man is more relaxed, it does not make it joyful. It’s worthwhile to arrange a farewell conversation on a neutral territory, where memories of happy moments will not swell for a couple.
How to break up with the guy you love
The hardest thing for a girl who loves her boyfriend is breaking up with him. Of course, it will be very hard and painful. But it is worth remembering that over time it will become easier, and breaking a non-promising relationship will save you from many troubles.
In order to part with your loved one you need to take into account some of the nuances:
- The decision to end a relationship must be firm and not incur any doubts.
- At the time of a serious conversation, the girl should have a good calm mood.
- It is necessary to talk about the desire to break off relations after discussing all the disadvantages and shortcomings of a love union.
- In no case can not be filled with happy memories, you need to learn that everything is in the past.
- You should not constantly repeat about your love for the young man, otherwise he will take a serious conversation as a bluff of pure water.
- You can not resort to the use of abusive words and insults.
The main thing in this case is the decision on parting, which is very difficult to take.
What if a guy wants to break up
Parting with his beloved is doubly difficult if it happens unexpectedly and at the behest of a guy. In this case, every girl is overwhelmed with a feeling of indignation, since the first blow was struck at her vanity.
To break the bond is not so painfully necessary:
- first of all, to adequately assess the relationship and focus on the disadvantages;
- not to make hysterics and not to cause panic;
- quietly listen to the guy and express your opinion on this matter;
- not to persuade the chosen one to return or remain friends;
- distract yourself with something interesting and interesting.
Of course, the first time will be tormented by memories. But it is worth remembering that faded relationships have no future, even if one of the beloveds understood.
How to stay friends after breaking up
It often happens that after a love union breaks, former lovers want to remain friends. This is understandable, because despite the separation, they still respect and value each other. In order to maintain a warm relationship after breaking the bond, a woman must take into account some features:
- the cause of discord in no case should not be a betrayal on the part of the girl, otherwise the guy will get angry and lose respect for her;
- you should not try to make friends immediately after the break, the man has not yet managed to move away from such unpleasant news for him;
- immediately after the break, it is necessary to move away from the former elect for some time, not to intersect with him and not to show interest in him;
- to establish friendship is possible only after complete liberation from memories and feelings.
Staying friends after breaking up is very difficult. But still, with common interests and friends, this is quite possible.
It is only important to learn to perceive each other as independent people.
Talk of a guy and a girl "Let's part": tips from psychologists
Talking heart to heart - according to experts, this is the most difficult way to part. In this case, for the correct construction of the conversation the girl should read the advice of psychologists.
Recommendations of specialists:
- The girl should behave naturally, and the presentation of thoughts should be sincere and confident.
- Do not forget about the words of gratitude for your time together.
- The reason for the gap must be convincing and justified.
- Come to the conclusion that it is impossible to continue the relationship partners must be together.
- Do not hurt your chosen one before parting.
- If a guy tries to hug or kiss, you need to end the conversation and leave.
If an unbearably painful girl decides to meet in person and talk, you can report the break in the form of an e-mail or SMS. It is necessary to explain the situation and ask for forgiveness.
What exactly you can not do when parting
In order that the separation does not turn into a large-scale scandal, psychologists recommend excluding the commission of some wrong actions.
The prohibitions include:
- blame your chosen one for everything, it is very important to find a compromise and admit your mistakes;
- listen to the opinions of people around, it is unacceptable to interfere in the soul of outsiders, especially since their advice is not always true;
- discuss the situation with your friends, do not constantly remind yourself of the end of the relationship with your beloved boyfriend;
- You can not criticize your boyfriend behind your back, making him a negative character of your love.
Compliance with the above tips is very important.
I broke up with the guy - what to do next?
It is very important for any girl to adapt as soon as possible after the end of the relationship with her beloved boyfriend. As a rule, anger, resentment and longing do not leave for several months.
In addition to overflowing with these negative feelings, there can be apathy, emotional outbursts, and increased irritability. In any case, the girl must be left alone.
Of course, there are no absolutely exact remedies for suffering over the loss of a loved one. In this case, everything is purely individual. But still, psychologists have developed a few tips on how to organize your pastime after the end of a relationship with a guy.
The main recommendations include:
- Do not be discouraged.
- It should focus on what I really wanted.
- You can enroll in the pool, learn a foreign language or learn to drive a car.
- In no case can you store photos, SMS or gifts of a guy.
- Do not fall for the first time on the eyes of his former chosen one and not to show attempts to communicate.
The girl, after breaking the union with her beloved man, needs to fill her space with other hobbies and any affairs. This approach to the situation makes the beautiful half of the population more interesting to others.
Summarizing, we can say that parting with a guy is not a simple enough task, bringing resentment, pain, and even anger. In any case, do not delay the fading relationship, no matter how hard. It is worth remembering that the deadlocked bonds will bring much more suffering.
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