Each person (especially the fair sex) in his heart hopes that such a significant event as a wedding will happen no more than once in his life. Therefore, the choice of the date of marriage is usually approached with the utmost care, given a variety of reasons - superstition, astrological forecasts, religion, signs and others.
A special place among the judgments that do not have any substantial grounds for themselves is taken by the opinion of the “unsuccessful wedding in a leap year”. So, do weddings play a leap year? About this and not only below.
What is the difference between a leap year and the usual
A typical year consists of 365 days. The duration of the astronomical solar year (the period of the complete revolution of the Earth around the Sun) is 365 days, 5 hours, 48 minutes and 46 seconds. In order to smooth the existing error, the concept of a leap year was introduced - a year consisting of 366 days.
According to the current Gregorian calendar, over the past 400 years, the leap year “appeared” 97 times, providing the most accurate comparison of astronomical temporal indicators with “human” ones.
A leap year is nothing more than a mathematical conditional tool used to ensure the equality of the solar year and the calendar year for a sufficiently long period of time.
In other words, a leap year is a purely human invention, and should be treated accordingly.
Why not play a wedding in a leap year: superstition
Often there are cases when relatives of young people, having learned that a wedding is scheduled for a leap year, try to dissuade them from such a step, or ask to wait a little. The most radical of the "well-wishers" do not forget to mention that in addition to the leap year, the next two are unhappy - the so-called "widow year" and "widower year", that is, the wedding can be played according to the exclusively schedule "three years later".
The most paradoxical point is that the specific question: "Why not marry (get married) in a leap year?" no one can give a definite and comprehensive answer. Typical for modern society superstition, characterized by a dubious conclusion for a forgotten reason.
The roots of the misconception about the "unhappy wedding in a leap year" go back to ancient Russia. In those days, the year that had one more day was called the "year of the bride." During this year, the girl herself could confess to the guy in love, in fact, by making him a “marriage proposal”.
In this case, the groom did not have the right to refuse the proposal, which affected the future marital happiness of the resulting couple. Often, families created in this way fell apart within three years of the wedding.
Or people just lived with each other, formally remaining family.
A much less probable starting point for superstition is the statement that it is during a leap year that more people die than usual. But there are two serious objections.
First, it is not clear how a greater number of deaths (which is not proven by the facts!) Is related to marriage, and, secondly, increased mortality can be explained purely statistically (one year more in a year).
Leap year marriages are unhappy for purely psychological reasons. Among the people, where the above superstition is very strong, on the newlyweds is stamped "a pair that will surely be divorced."
Surrounding people do not take into account neither the strength of the feelings of the young, nor the secured present, nor the promising future. They persistently call the couple doomed, not forgetting to remind the reason - the unsuccessful date of the wedding. Of course, under the conditions of such psychological pressure, very few families remain.
The opinion of the church about the wedding and wedding
On the part of the church, marriage is regarded as the implementation of a wedding ceremony. Is it possible to make a wedding in a leap year, what do the priests say? According to church canons, there are no favorable or unfavorable years for the implementation of this rite.
True, there are some limitations, but they are not related to a leap year. The wedding is not done on the eve of the three days of the week - Friday, Sunday and Wednesday, and is not allowed during the period of many days (Great, Petrov, Ouspensky and Rozhdestvensky).
According to the priests, the definition of successful and unsuccessful marriage dates is secondary compared to the observance of generally accepted church actions by the bridegroom and the bride (prayer, communion, confession, and others).
What astrology claims
In modern man, the first association with the word "astrology" is the word "horoscope". The most popular horoscopes at the moment are the Western Zodiac and Eastern Chinese.
It should be clarified that if a couple decided to resort to the help of astrology, then the combination of the horoscopes of the bride and groom should be made before the appointment of the wedding date (in ancient China it was considered a mandatory attribute of matchmaking). Otherwise, it’s better not to even mention it.
If we are talking about the date of marriage in a leap year, then the condition is the same - both the groom and the bride have to have this year favorable for significant events or fundamental changes in their lives. Here is the fundamental difference in horoscopes.
The western horoscope is compiled for each year separately and is more suitable for determining adverse days than years. Affects its specificity - it covers, strictly speaking, only one year.
Leap years are the years of the Rat, the Dragon and the Monkey. The eastern horoscope rather accurately indicates who can tie the knot in these years, and who should not. Brief tips are:
- in the year of the Rat a person born in the year of the Horse cannot play the wedding. It is also not recommended to do this Snake, Cat (Rabbit);
- in the year of the Dragon it is impossible to marry (marry) people born under the sign of the Dog. It is not recommended to do this Kose (Sheep), Bull;
- in the year of the Monkey should not play the wedding of the Tigers. It is not recommended to marry (get married) Pig, Rooster.
In the Eastern horoscope there is one subtlety. Belonging to a particular sign should be calculated according to the Chinese lunar calendar, which differs from the Gregorian calendar for one or two months depending on the year.
Wedding in a leap year: signs and tips for a happy life
If the wedding is already scheduled, and superstitious thoughts still disturb the mind of the bride and groom, there are a few proven tips that can help create and save a family.
But, according to the established tradition ("year of the bride"), they relate mainly to the behavior and attributes of the bride. These include:
- It is not necessary to arrange large and noisy celebrations in the house of the bride before the wedding. In a leap year, this rule is especially relevant;
- The bride's wedding dress should be long (the dress should be below the knees), since it is a symbol of the longevity of the marriage. The longer the dress - the stronger the union;
- a bride, in a wedding dress whose number of buttons will be even, in the future will become a beloved and happy wife;
- In the wedding shoes the bride should be put on a coin. Such an action will bring wealth to the future family;
- Wedding tablecloth should have a special place among memorabilia. It is believed that if the first, second and third anniversary of laying the table with her, family well-being will remain with the young forever.
Reviews about the life of spouses after the wedding in a leap year
My wife and I were a little afraid of marriage in a leap year. Leaning languages discouraged, they themselves heard about bad omens. In the end, they decided and did not regret it. Now we have a lot of joy - two children, and the son was born in the same leap year. And all who were against it, somehow silenced. I am very pleased with our decision, I advise everyone to spit on superstition and walk confidently towards their family happiness.
Konstantin (28 years old, wedding in 2012), Yaroslavl
In leap years, millions are born, and each has its own fate, different from others. In some, life will be happy, in others - tragic, but it does not depend on the date of birth. So why are we supporting these strange superstitions ?? I got married in a leap year and was born. My husband and I do not live happily, but not like a cat with a dog. Normally, like everyone else.
Anna (29 years old, wedding in 2012), Magadan
Without fear, married to a leap year, in the month of May, moreover. Honestly, in those days, leap year horror stories were not widely known. Soon we will live 28 years together, soul to soul.
Olga (54 years old, wedding in 1988), Vladivostok
A leap year wedding has one significant practical advantage. Due to the fact that, statistically, in a similar year, weddings are dealt with less often than usual, the demand for basic services decreases. And, therefore, the price of the services of the photographer, operator, organizer also decreases.
Dear grooms and beautiful brides! Your family happiness depends on you! Be as confident as possible in your decision and do not let your and other superstitions deprive you of the joy of joint creation and love!
Do not be afraid of a leap year and events associated with it. Remember that only your fears and negative thoughts can prevent your happiness. One great philosopher said: "A wedding is a union of two loving hearts, made in heaven." And over such a union, no signs and superstitions are associated with the odd day of the year.
And a little more information about weddings in a leap year - in the next video.
